We have heard of wedding vows and everyone gives a lot of importance to the words of the vows they take only to misplace it somewhere in time during the course of life...Most of the vows are similar. It is so important to actually feel and mean what you say...It is important to try to follow what one promises to another person however hard it may be. Just recently I heard someone say on TV that when you show someone a dream of a lifetime together it is your responsibility to protect that dream and not let it break.
Words have value only if they are truly meant from the heart or they just remain words...A lot of people promise a lot of things just to break their word later. A lot of people say a lot of beautiful words at the time of their wedding perhaps because the situation demands it or romance calls for it.
Wedding vows are important and have their own beauty...But I would like to believe that there is something called Pre-Wedding vows too which lays down a strong foundation for the wedding vows that follow it. According to me, Pre -wedding vows should be more demonstrative and not merely remain words so that the vows taken on your wedding day blossom from them and straight from your heart. Promises should be made to each other in the knowing process or the dating period before the marriage. There are pre-wedding events, pre-wedding rehearsals and pre-wedding counseling and there should be pre-wedding vows as well.
It is essential for two people to interact with each other and get to know each other well before they set a wedding date. In conservative cultures couples may not be allowed to interact with each other freely before their wedding but today's world calls for two people to get to know each other well before getting married even in the case of an arranged marriage. This time in getting to know each other will enlighten them about each other and how well they relate. Such time together also shows them whether they are prepared to accept an entire life with each other. That's when these pre- marital vows play their part...As part of the vow, the couple should promise to stand by each other in life's decision making and challenges...A couple should vow to be there for each other in the tests of life, in doubts and misunderstandings because as it was said by one of the ladies in the movie " Barfi" , a long silence between a couple can silence the love...A vow should be taken to keep their connection alive even in their differences of opinions and arguments because once the communication is lost, a relationship is lost. A fair argument is also some form of communication. It is better than being silent with each other because of the fear of offending each other. Withholding and hiding things from each other can damage the relationship gradually. A pre wedding vow should also include the promise that they would be no secrets...A long silence between two people in love creates a wide gap between them. The threads of love that once connected them slowly break with the strength of the winds of separation each day during that silence .
One should appreciate the chance to be together instead of losing that one chance to time. Whatever questions life may present the pair, they should promise to stand united in solving them and getting past their misunderstandings. There has to be honesty , trust and a sincere desire to be with each other between them to start with to deal with what life has to offer them in the future.
A promise should be made to be willing to share almost everything with each other in terms of their past, present and future. A couple must be willing to reveal everything about themselves to each other to invite trust and confidence in each other. Pre- marital vows should be taken seriously and should be lived and fulfilled. The fulfillment of these vows reflects in the time the couple takes time to know each other before the wedding date. The completion of these vows will be visible in small things...When a couple has proved the willingness to stand by these promises before they get married will they actually live the vows taken on their wedding day in the days that follow their wedding. Actions speak louder than words and the sealing of these promises would naturally be visible in the times they interact with each other. The music of a relationship should keep playing through the notes of expression,emotions,sensitivity, understanding,love, acceptance and mutual respect to begin with even if the songs may be unpleasant sometimes till the time you perfect it. Once the musical record of a relationship breaks, it will be broken forever and will never play the same way again even if you try fixing it...It may not be possible to revive the beauty of a special relationship when it is ruined by endless misunderstandings, lies and mind games. A relationship is actually quite fragile and it can vanish in an instant leaving behind tears and heartache. So promise each other to create a beautiful melody in life and live by it. The fulfillment of the pre-wedding vows would add a magical touch to the day when you finally promise each other your lives before everyone.
Words have value only if they are truly meant from the heart or they just remain words...A lot of people promise a lot of things just to break their word later. A lot of people say a lot of beautiful words at the time of their wedding perhaps because the situation demands it or romance calls for it.
Wedding vows are important and have their own beauty...But I would like to believe that there is something called Pre-Wedding vows too which lays down a strong foundation for the wedding vows that follow it. According to me, Pre -wedding vows should be more demonstrative and not merely remain words so that the vows taken on your wedding day blossom from them and straight from your heart. Promises should be made to each other in the knowing process or the dating period before the marriage. There are pre-wedding events, pre-wedding rehearsals and pre-wedding counseling and there should be pre-wedding vows as well.
It is essential for two people to interact with each other and get to know each other well before they set a wedding date. In conservative cultures couples may not be allowed to interact with each other freely before their wedding but today's world calls for two people to get to know each other well before getting married even in the case of an arranged marriage. This time in getting to know each other will enlighten them about each other and how well they relate. Such time together also shows them whether they are prepared to accept an entire life with each other. That's when these pre- marital vows play their part...As part of the vow, the couple should promise to stand by each other in life's decision making and challenges...A couple should vow to be there for each other in the tests of life, in doubts and misunderstandings because as it was said by one of the ladies in the movie " Barfi" , a long silence between a couple can silence the love...A vow should be taken to keep their connection alive even in their differences of opinions and arguments because once the communication is lost, a relationship is lost. A fair argument is also some form of communication. It is better than being silent with each other because of the fear of offending each other. Withholding and hiding things from each other can damage the relationship gradually. A pre wedding vow should also include the promise that they would be no secrets...A long silence between two people in love creates a wide gap between them. The threads of love that once connected them slowly break with the strength of the winds of separation each day during that silence .
One should appreciate the chance to be together instead of losing that one chance to time. Whatever questions life may present the pair, they should promise to stand united in solving them and getting past their misunderstandings. There has to be honesty , trust and a sincere desire to be with each other between them to start with to deal with what life has to offer them in the future.
A promise should be made to be willing to share almost everything with each other in terms of their past, present and future. A couple must be willing to reveal everything about themselves to each other to invite trust and confidence in each other. Pre- marital vows should be taken seriously and should be lived and fulfilled. The fulfillment of these vows reflects in the time the couple takes time to know each other before the wedding date. The completion of these vows will be visible in small things...When a couple has proved the willingness to stand by these promises before they get married will they actually live the vows taken on their wedding day in the days that follow their wedding. Actions speak louder than words and the sealing of these promises would naturally be visible in the times they interact with each other. The music of a relationship should keep playing through the notes of expression,emotions,sensitivity, understanding,love, acceptance and mutual respect to begin with even if the songs may be unpleasant sometimes till the time you perfect it. Once the musical record of a relationship breaks, it will be broken forever and will never play the same way again even if you try fixing it...It may not be possible to revive the beauty of a special relationship when it is ruined by endless misunderstandings, lies and mind games. A relationship is actually quite fragile and it can vanish in an instant leaving behind tears and heartache. So promise each other to create a beautiful melody in life and live by it. The fulfillment of the pre-wedding vows would add a magical touch to the day when you finally promise each other your lives before everyone.
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