I wrote this article a long time back but I don’t think I posted it in my blog.:) -
Ladies, there is a movie I want you to watch ! There are different phases of our lives where love taken on a different meaning for us based on our experiences and cultural beliefs. In most cultures, little girls are taught that a prince will save the princess, but is that entirely true !? Well this movie relates that. Watch "Meskina" on Netflix. I watched it long time back. It is a romantic comedy but speaks volumes. I loved the music as it really uplifts you. And there is generous dosage of humour.
Many of you will relate to what this movie relates as you believe that too , even now even after all these years.:) I am also living and echoing that thought somewhere in my life that I too don't need a prince to save me as much as I still want to hang on to the belief that love saves a woman or a prince will save the princess. I wish a prince could do even more. But today's world expects the princess to stand up for herself too and so a woman now knows that she too can save the prince or help him to save the both of them !;) My thoughts and beliefs always dictated me into believing that in the end only true love can save the princess or a prince will rescue her. I still like to believe in that fairy tale. But I am also realistic enough now to know that it is woman's confidence in her own abilities that saves her !
I am writing this today to celebrate so many years of my surviving through everything on my own without my prince ! My family too always wanted me to marry on time and to gain all's approval, I kept going on these arrange marriage dates even though I felt such an arrangement was not always enough to know what you are signing for in marriage. To gain acceptance in society, mostly one needs to be married or at least in my circle. So I kept searching for the one on my own too. Call it fate or destiny but I was not meant to meet my prince.
But like Meskina after meeting lots of wonderful and not so wonderful princes, I found myself though not the prince. In the noise of everyone's comments, opinions, expectations and demands I finally listened to myself ! As much as I truly believe in love as a die hard romantic, I realized that in loving another one can't forget loving oneself ! In being there for another or for your family, one cannot desert oneself! To please others I can't lose my voice entirely ! I will make my voice be heard but with dignity, grace as well as without losing the beautiful qualities of a woman.
My friend rightly told me that nobody saves us but ourselves and that always a prince does not save the princess... In fact she is raising her daughter with that thought precisely. I met many a princes but they never saved me but betrayed me. In the end it was my faith, perseverance and determination that always saved me ! And today I am strong enough to save the prince actually ! ;) As much as I still respect peoples' decisions and differences in opinions about my life,I never let it affect me from embarking on a path that holds struggles and challenges.
I would still like to believe that there are such endings where a prince actually arrives to save the princess. But now I don't believe that I would fall in love only to go on a journey to please the prince all the way but now I will please myself too but most certainly in a way that befits a lady !
You can be strong and yet celebrate being a woman because women can be both strong and delicate at the same time ! I will be giving and sacrificing , but as a woman I will not let my voice fade away. I will not drown in fulfilling the wants and desires of everyone but mine. Now as a woman, I will fulfill my wants too because if I am contented will I be able to provide contentment to others by serving the best of myself to others.
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